In Daddy Long Legs, for instance, the semi-anonymous benefactor to whom the main character writes is an "X" because she isn't aware of his true age and identity. In Microserfs, one of the main characters carries on a relationship with a literal "X" online--he has no idea who is meeting when they do meet up. In 84 Charing Cross Road (epistolary memoir), the writers come to know more about each other over time.
The differences point to a difference in transformation: in some cases, the disguise/distances leads to closeness. In some cases, the disguise, however, is seen as a problem: the person needs to come out from behind the screen and make the relationship real.
My personal theory is that humans like the idea of the first but prefer the second. That is, we like to think that our "true selves" or "souls" someone meld with another, that distance and disguise will deepen the connection. But in reality, communication through a screen is still a great deal of work. Self-expression, tact, rejection and fear of rejection, honesty: the needs and emotions don't change that much.
84 Charing Cross Road may be the most honest. There is a suggestion of romance or closeness--but in truth, the relationship isn't about preference (I want you more than I want my wife). The relationship is between two people who like to write and get their closeness in that way.
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